I grew up with a binary understanding of pain, established by my dad through a simple diagnostic question:
Is it pain? Or is it discomfort?
When I fell and scraped my knees bloody, after running around an abandoned parking lot, he carried me to the car, popped the trunk of his SUV, sat me down, and asked, “Is it pain? Or discomfort?”
At a friend’s house in New Jersey, playing around near the woods, I went back to the house with a hand full of splinters. Dad fetched a needle, bathed it with a lighter, and with each sliver (“Pain?”) only finished after confirming: “Discomfort.”
For household cuts and scrapes, the question came later, inside Dr. Dad’s office (i.e. my parents’ bathroom).
His medicine cabinet was under the sink and consisted of only two things: a tall bottle of hydrogen peroxide, in its dull, foreboding brown, and a bargain bag of cotton balls. The sight of the two together, even before the compound broke into foam and started eating at my skin, was enough to feel it sting. He’d let me pinch his hand (“Not pain, right? Only discomfort?”) until it was done.
As it turns out, the stuff isn’t actually so good as an antiseptic.
But that’s beside the point. And deciding whether it was pain or discomfort was never really the purpose, either.
Dad always knew it wasn’t pain. But it was only because he asked that I knew it was just discomfort.